S2 Episode 4: Reframing Pregnancy Loss
In Episode 4 of Season 2, Natalie & Chelsea sit down with Emma Calderon to discuss fertility, her journey to conceive after pregnancy loss, and motherhood, and how her mindset impacted her journey.
Show Notes:
Hosts:
Natalie M.
Chelsea M.
Timestamps:
**00:00** - Introduction
**00:31** - Beginning of Episode - Guest Intro of Emma Calderon.
**02:22** - Natalie asks Emma to take us back to the start of her Motherhood journey.
**06:30** - Natalie asks Emma when she reframed her first pregnancy as a “gift”.
**09:45** - Natalie asks Emma how she reframed her feelings of shame, guilt, etc around the loss of her first pregnancy. Did she use a specific process, see a therapist, take time off from work, etc.?
**16:08** - Natalie asks Emma how she addressed her feelings of isolation within her marriage.
**17:35** - Natalie asks Emma to take us through her second pregnancy.
**22:47** - Chelsea asks Emma if there was a piece of advice that she received that really resonated with/helped her.
**23:41** - Natalie asks Emma what the least helpful piece of advice was that she received and what makes people say these kinds of things.
**27:34** - Natalie asks Emma what other methods or processes she used to manage her stress at this time.
**33:04** - Break
**33:43** - Chelsea asks Emma how cultivating a mindset of being able to, “surrender to something that is not in her control” has helped in mothering her twin boys.
**37:54** - Natalie asks Emma if she ever thought mothering wouldn’t come naturally to her.
**41:55** - Natalie asks Emma if motherhood has changed her as a person and/or how she moves through life now.
**44:32** - Natalie asks Emma if when she looks back on everything that has happened, would she choose to do anything differently.
**46:04** - Chelsea asks Emma if there is a word that captures her journey or a word that enabled her to navigate these challenges.
**48:07** - Closing
**48:57** - End of Episode
**49:14** - Stay Tuned
**49:52** - Outro
Key Takeaways:
1. “Fixed Mindset”: Belief that abilities, talents, and traits are fixed or inherent and cannot be significantly changed.
Example: Avoiding challenges for fear of failure.
2. “Growth Mindset”: Belief that abilities, talents, and traits can be developed and improved through effort and learning.
Example: Embracing challenges as opportunities to grow.
3. **Tips for Cultivating a Growth Mindset**
Self-Awareness
Identify Your Fixed Mindset Triggers: Recognize the situations that trigger a fixed mindset (e.g., challenges, setbacks, or criticism).
Reflect: Make it a habit to reflect on your thoughts and feelings regularly, identifying instances where a fixed mindset held you back.
Change Your Language
Switch Your Language: Instead of saying “I can’t do this” or “I’ll never . . .,” say “I can’t do this yet,” or “I am moving towards . . . .”
Embrace Constructive Feedback: When you or others fail, #fail forward by focusing on what can be learned from the experience.
Reframe Challenges and Setbacks
Stretch Goals: Set an objective that pushes you out of your comfort zone.
Reframe Failures: View setbacks as opportunities for growth, not as a validation of an inability or shortcoming.
Embrace Feedback and Prioritize Learning Over Validation
Constructive Criticism: Actively seek out feedback that helps you improve or refine your skills.
Encourage Open Dialogue: Create an environment or cultivate relationships where open and constructive feedback is welcomed and regular.
Value the Process: Prioritize learning and improving over success or perfection.
Focus on Yourself: Prioritize yourself, focus on your personal development, and celebrate your achievements. Avoid seeking approval or validation from others.
Additional Resources:
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