S2 Episode 11: Reframing Our Relationship With Goals
In Episode 11 of Season 2, Natalie & Chelsea recap their episode with guest Rick Muhr (S2 Ep10), and discuss how their relationship with goal setting and execution has changed in recent years.
Show Notes:
Hosts:
Natalie M.
Chelsea M.
Timestamps:
**00:00** - Introduction
**00:31** - Guest Intro
**1:16** - Natalie talks about the Boston Marathon and what else she’s been up to since Episode 10 aired.
**8:15** - Chelsea talks about what she’s been up to since Episode 10 aired.
**14:08** - Natalie and Chelsea recap their discussion with Rick.
**23:16** - Break
**23:45** - The conversation continues as Natalie and Chelsea get into this episode's topic, goals. Specifically, the importance of them, the roles they play, how setting & accomplishing them may have changed over the years.
**25:13** - Natalie asks Chelsea if her view of goals and their purpose has changed in the last year?
**35:34** - Natalie asks Chelsea if her process of goal setting has changed in this last year.
**47:18** - Natalie discusses her struggles with a “scarcity mindset” and talks about how her perception of what constitutes a goal and setting that goal is changing.
**1:11:31** - End of Episode
**1:11:50** - Stay Tuned
**1:12:28** - Outro
***Please note: any reference made to Tuft’s in this recording should have been made to the Leukemia Lymphoma Society of America.
Key Takeaways:
1. “Fixed Mindset”: Belief that abilities, talents, and traits are fixed or inherent and cannot be significantly changed.
Example: Avoiding challenges for fear of failure.
2. “Growth Mindset”: Belief that abilities, talents, and traits can be developed and improved through effort and learning.
Example: Embracing challenges as opportunities to grow.
3. **Tips for Cultivating a Growth Mindset**
Self-Awareness
Identify Your Fixed Mindset Triggers: Recognize the situations that trigger a fixed mindset (e.g., challenges, setbacks, or criticism).
Reflect: Make it a habit to reflect on your thoughts and feelings regularly, identifying instances where a fixed mindset held you back.
Change Your Language
Switch Your Language: Instead of saying “I can’t do this” or “I’ll never . . .,” say “I can’t do this yet,” or “I am moving towards . . . .”
Embrace Constructive Feedback: When you or others fail, #fail forward by focusing on what can be learned from the experience.
Reframe Challenges and Setbacks
Stretch Goals: Set an objective that pushes you out of your comfort zone.
Reframe Failures: View setbacks as opportunities for growth, not as a validation of an inability or shortcoming.
Embrace Feedback and Prioritize Learning Over Validation
Constructive Criticism: Actively seek out feedback that helps you improve or refine your skills.
Encourage Open Dialogue: Create an environment or cultivate relationships where open and constructive feedback is welcomed and regular.
Value the Process: Prioritize learning and improving over success or perfection.
Focus on Yourself: Prioritize yourself, focus on your personal development, and celebrate your achievements. Avoid seeking approval or validation from others.
Additional Resources:
Book: "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" by Carol Dweck
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